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Subject: Forgiveness as key to future
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endtimes 13.10.08 - 11:07pm
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It is a
release from the
burden of anger and pain. When you choose to forgive, you
choose to
live in the present and the future instead of the past. It
does not
mean to forget but it does mean to release and go on.
Forgiveness
doesn't happen on it's own, you must choose to
forgive. *
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Forgiving doesn't always mean resuming a relationship
with whoever has
hurt you. If a person won't meet you halfway or has
been abusive, it
may be better to forgive simply to make your own life less
stressful,
but continue to keep your distance, recommends Frederic
Luskin, Ph.D.,
author of Forgive for Good. That way, you can protect
yourself but
still reap the benefits. Try his tips for mending a broken
bond:
1. Get the frustration - tell your story to a few close
friends. This
will help you explore your feelings about the rift and
obtain a clear
sense of perspective.
2. Focus on what's in it for you - it's not always
about who was right.
Remind yourself that forgiving can free you to move on with
your life.
Tell yourself that the point is to reduce angst. After
all, living well
is the best revenge.
3. Breathe in calm - instead of tensing up or starting in
on your inner
rant, inhale and exhale deeply or relax in whatever way
appeals to you. *
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4. Turn the details of your story around - victims
don't have control
of their lives; heroes do. So make yourself the hero of
your own saga.
Think of it this way; Although someone else may have
precipitated your
misery, whether you stay miserable is entirely up to you.
You may have been hurt by something that your partner did
to you. You
may have been hurt because your expectations weren't
met. You may have
been hurt and you don't even remember why. You may
have done something
to someone else that you are sorry for. And you remember
the pain and
carry it with you like a grudge everywhere you go. When
your burden
becomes too great, it becomes the relationship, it consumes
your life
and it changes who you are and what your relationships can
be. *
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It is a
wall between you and the intimacy that you seek.
When you forgive: Forgive is defined as: giving up
resentment against or
the desire to punish; stop being angry with; pardon.
1.You relieve yourself of the burden of the past. You
shed the
hurt, pain, anger, and loneliness. You can begin to heal.
2.You give the person you forgive (even yourself) the
freedom to
live in peace and to be able to change for the better.
Points about forgiveness:
1.Forgiveness is not forgetting.
2.The pain may not be completely gone. One can forgive
and still
grieve a loss or feel pain from a wound. *
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3.Damage and wounds can take time to repair.
4.Forgiveness does not deny responsibility for behavior.
You have
simply committed to not hold the other person in debt.
Key Point:
Every person is doing their best given their upbringing and
their
conditioning. We each are doing the very best we can with
what we have
been given. As we know better we do better.
Ways to forgive:
An individual exercise in forgiveness:
1.Write down with pen and paper all of the things that you
have
done wrong. It is imperative that you write. Word
processing is not
the same.
2.Read the list.
3.Now say I did the best that I could with the
knowledge that I
had at the time. I now forgive myself and go free.
4.Destroy (burn or shred) the list.
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Repeat the exercise for each of the other people who
have hurt
you.
6.Now begin anew to live your life without the burden of
unforgiving pain - it is unnecessary suffering.
Individual forgiveness - forgive yourself for judging
yourself for not
being worthy of love, happiness and joy. You are worthy of
love. You
are worthy of happiness. You are worthy of joy. Stop
judging yourself.
Have the strength and courage to allow yourself to be
vulnerable. Be
kind and loving to yourself. Practice holding a positive
vision for
yourself. Make choices that support you in moving forward
in your life.
It is all about choices. Choose to forgive yourself and
then move
forward and let go of your past. Live for today and enjoy
the journey
of life itself. *
dale2424 9.11.08 - 09:47pm
Christ died for our forgiveness *
nandicyl 1.02.09 - 01:19pm
Its nt easy 2 4gv al the wrngs done 2 u by othrz bt no mattr hw hard it is 4get th pain u endured,1 hz 2 let go of th anger n 4gv.un4gvnes leads 2 heartache,stres n hindrs grwth while th wrng doer carryz on livng hz lyf..so get rd of th baggage u carryn. *
